During my ballet class in my early twenties, there was a girl who was a few years older than me who was getting married. When I asked her if she was excited for the wedding she said she was but that she was amazed about how much it cost for one day. Upon hearing that, I knew that she was going to have a successful marriage. From what I had learned from my mother, she seemed to understand that the wedding day was about the marriage not about the reception, the dress, the color of the bridesmaids dresses, or the type of flowers that would be in the church or that she was going to hold.
My mother was amazed on how many women were focused on wedding rather than on the marriage. The discussions between the man and woman in love dealt with color and design of napkins and the reception rather than how many children they were going to have or other important factors that were going to present themselves for the next 10, 20, 30, and 40 years. Growing up, she wanted me to understand that after the bridesmaids walked down the aisle, the flowers died, and the music and dancing was finished the pictures and invitations and the loving relationship between you and your husband that would be left with you your children and grandchildren.
Emily Post has numerous guidelines about the 'Do's and Don'ts' about what is appropriate for preparing for the wedding day and what to do after the wedding but what about the wedding itself?
A Sophisticate appreciates the fact that she has fallen in love and not just that she received a wedding ring and will be getting married. For a Sophisticate when she get's married, the wedding itself is merely the celebration of the love she shares with another person. The wedding the icing on the cake and the mere representation of the love between her and the man she chose to marry.
For a Sophisticate when planning a wedding the marriage is the focus NOT the trappings.
A Sophisticate's wedding is important because it celebrates the love that you have with another person with all of the rest of the people in your life that you love. The wedding is the symbolic first step and joyous celebration in a life that is spent together as one. Before the wedding, a Sophisticate talks with her husband to focus on the most important elements of that celebration. For some sophisticated couples, the ceremony and food are important or maybe, it is merely the dress that you hope will be passed on for generations.
Either way, when a Sophisticate plans a wedding both her and her husband-to-be discuss what is important to them and what they want to focus their resources on to remember the spiritual joining of one of if not the happiest days of their loving life together. ;D