Sophisticated Love Lesson #2: The Mask
“No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be the true.” Nathaniel Hawthorne

While eating lunch alone at a restaurant, I saw another woman eating alone as well. We struck up a conversation and ended up eating together. We somehow ended up talking about dating, relationships, and men.

The woman told me she was recently divorced. All of a sudden she started talking about a mask. She described this mask as made of clay that melted off of a man's face.

At that moment, I began to wonder if I had made a mistake talking and sitting down with this woman. Then, she arrived at her point. She said to me that some men wear a mask. They impress you by buying you roses, taking you out to dinner, and proposing to you in hopes that they can get you to marry them. She warned me that these men don’t want you to see their real face. They want you to marry them before their mask melts away and you discover who they really are as a person.

"Marry some sentimental hog or other with lots of money, and a thick pair of lips to kiss you with and a thick pair of boots to kick you with. If you can't appreciate what you've got, you'd better get what you can appreciate" from the play 'Pygmalion' by George Bernard Shaw

Although, never put in terms of a mask I’ve seen men do this to women. Whether they are rich or poor, good looking or not so good looking, it doesn't matter. Whenever I found a man who was bent on dating or impressing me with fancy items before we became friends, I was ALWAYS cautious. If a man wants to travel across country to see you and doesn't send you a card or even a text message on Valentines Day, be forewarned.How could one stranger commit himself to another stranger so quickly? When you meet a stranger, they should be a little strange. When something looks too good to be true, it usually is…

Be cautious. When you are not friends beforehand and meet someone, in all purposes a stranger who wants to progress a relationship too quickly or does too much right from the start of the relationship, question the situation.  Does this person like the chase? Will he continue when you get married?

Love Lesson #2:  When getting to know someone always ask yourself, are you dating the REAL person or are you dating the ‘The Mask’?