Sophisticated Love Rule #1:Passion... Obsession

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"Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. I say, fall head over heels. Find someone you can love like crazy and who will love you the same way back. How do you find him? Well, you forget your head, and you listen to your heart. And I'm not hearing any heart. 'Cause the truth is, honey, there's no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love, well, you haven't lived." from the movie 'Meet Joe Black' (1998)

My first manager during my internship my senior year of college was a mentor who taught me lessons at work that have carried me through my career. In relationships, she said her mother stated that a person to be a little obsessed with the other person in the beginning of a relationship. That obsession helps  if your love for one another is going to last 10, 20, even 30 years. 

At work, top executives will tell you about their experience and beyond ambition they use words like passion, excitement, and desire. To overcome the obstacles they faced they needed something more than just their intellect to overcome them. The same holds for love.

My mom had a crush on my dad for four years before my dad asked her out. If you ask people who have been married for awhile about their first date with their spouse, excitement is always something they describe as being one of their main feelings. 

True love is a crush that is reciprocated. True love is when you don't give up wanting to be with that person out of wanting to be a part of someone's life because you want to and respect the goodness and kindness of what is found in their heart.  That is where the passion for another person comes form. 

WARNING: When you are obsessed with someone because it is a challenge or you are obsessed with them because you are angry, it is not love. An obsession that is associated with anger is called stalking. 

"Love is irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired" Robert Frost

When you feel as if there is no way that you could ever not see or talk with another person again, you know you are in love. That doesn't mean that you don't want to give them space but the space can't be eternity. Love is noticing small details about a person that others don't see. Love is distraction and not being able to get them out of your dreams either awake or asleep. When you can't imagine your life without that person, you are in love.

Sophisticated Love Rule #1: Love is obsession... passion.