Personal Love Lesson

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"For me, love like that has only happened once, and that's why every minute we spent together has been scared in my memory. I'll never forget a single moment of it." Nicholas Sparks, 'The Notebook' 

Last December I planned my series of blogs for the next two years. I chose dating and relationships for 2012 because I had given up on love. I had no hope or desire to find love or to have love find me.   My idea was to blog about all of the lessons I had learned over the years so that others could benefit from the mistakes I had made.


When I started blogging about dating and relationships I never expected to meet someone. In March, I went alone to see 'The Hunger Games' at the King of Prussia Mall. In the lobby I met a stranger (now a friend) who was kind enough to ask me to sit with her, her husband, and their friend who happen to be single. Although I given up on ever going on another date again the man I sat next to helped to change my mind. 

While we watched the movie, he made me laugh. I felt comfortable talking as if I had known him for years. At the end of the movie, he threw out my trash without me asking or realizing what had happened. There are moments that are so small yet significant. With that small gesture, I felt as if he was different from other men I had met. He was someone special. 


From the start he proved himself a gentleman and never disappointed. With strong arms and a big heart he knocked down my misconceptions about men and made me believe again.

In the time I knew him, I went from being someone who was disappointed to  someone who was grateful. I became someone who survived to someone who  didn't have to do it alone. Because of him I went from being someone who was scared to someone who felt as if she had help in times of trouble. Most importantly, I went  from someone who was angry all the time to someone who learned what it was like to be happy. With him I became someone who had a second chance.

Sophisticate in the Suburbs™ is a mere caricature of someone I would  love to be in real life. Affection can be broken just as quickly and as easily as Cinderella's glass slipper. In the end, relationships are precious and good people are rare. My biggest mistake was to ruin a relationship that made me want to be a better person. 

In the real world, there are no fairy godmothers to make a situation better when everything has been ruined. Without hope of a fairytale ending, all I have left is the gratitude, hope, and happiness he left in my heart.  All I have left is time to become the better person he made me want to be.;D