“Social Media is about sociology and psychology more than technology.” Brain Solis Principal of FutureWorks
With the rise of Social Media comes the rise of certain etiquette tips especially when you are in a relationship. Can a relationship survive while one or both people are online?
In 2011 a survey stated that Facebook is responsible for 1 in 5 divorces. (wtsp.com). A third of all divorce filing in 2011 contained the word "Facebook," according to Divorce Online. And more than 80 percent of U.S. divorce attorneys say social networking in divorce attorneys say social networking in divorce proceedings is on the rise, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. (abc world news).
In the United Kingdom Facebook was responsible for 33 percent of Divorces iin 2011 up from 20 percent in 2009 (webpronews)
Those were statistics in 2011. How has the situation improved or gotten worse? With the freedom for a Sophisticate to post anything at any time on Twitter, on her blog, on Facebook, or on any social media forum how can she sustain a healthy relationship with someone? (Facebook Dating Etiquette)
Whether on Twitter, Facebook, on her blog, or any Social Media forum there are a few golden rules when you are in a relationship:
- No specific names mentioned
- Keep positive (For example, "My husband is the best")
- Communication outside of social media
- Any pictures must be agreed upon before they are posted
“LinkedIn is for the people you know. Facebook is for the people you used to know. Twitter is for people you want to know” Source unknown
Instead of the 'Little Black Book' being thrown away, in the 21st Century trust between two people in a relationship has altered. A sign of trust is when a Sophisticate is able to show the one she loves her Social media sites. There is a freedom and a sign of trust similar to when the contact information and pictures from each others phones are shared.
Blogging is the key to who a Sophisticate is including what she wants and what she is interested in regards to life and love. Everything written is fair game. In a relationship everything written should be read and talked about to make sure the most important person in your life knows everything before anyone else. Two people in a relationship can have their own separate blogs as long as they are able to talk about what they are posting. Sophisticated Love Rule #3: Best Friends
There are more specific etiquette tips for blogging including:
- Keep situations general in nature
- Situations written about are dependent on the argument
- Discuss the blog topic you create with your partner
- Write what you would have communicated
- Be honest
In the end, the most appropriate way to be on Facebook or Twitter is when you are in a relationship (especially on Facebook) is when only one person is online or both people in a relationship have a joint profile together.