A Sophisticate has No Fear

Talia Castellano (August 18, 1999 – July 16, 2013
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"To me, Fearless is not about the absence of fear. It's not being completely unafraid. To me Fearless is having fears. Fearless is having doubts. Lot's of them. To me Fearless is living in spite of those things that scare you to death" Taylor Swift

While playing soccer, I threw myself in front of ball  coming from across the field. After the play and the goal was scored, a girl on my team came over to me and said “Wow! You really aren't afraid of anything are you?” I smiled in return. Later on, while driving home from the game I thought about her comment. Why would I be afraid of a soccer ball? In the grand scheme of what someone has to deal with in a lifetime including, death, taking care of children who are born with a crippling illness, Cancer, HIV, starvation, heartache, and feelings of failure, why would a soccer ball scare me or anyone else? From experience, a bloody or broken nose, a bruised kneecap, a few broken bones can and will heal. The emotional scars that life inflicts are the ones that never go away.

A Sophisticated woman in the 21st Century is aware of what goes bump in the night. She is aware of the dangers and hardships that can arise in life. She also has the additional pressure of making whatever happens or whatever she has to go through look easy and be able to perform every act with little to no effort. Previous generations of women were not exposed to as many realities of life as women are today. As we continue to succeed in society and consequently take more responsibility for ourselves and others it is only logical that the horrors of life that we are exposed to will only increase. 

With all of the horrors or obstacles in life for us to face and overcome, does a sophisticated woman allow life to run her or does she run her life? There is no question that it is we as sophisticated women who run and control our own life. Therefore, to be sophisticated woman in the 21st Century is the ability to have no fear.

Sometimes we are faced with situations that are so horrible that we don't know if we are strong enough to face it. Sometimes the best thing to do is fake it because no one will know the difference and eventually neither will you. A Sophisticate is unique and therefore, an essential characteristic of a sophisticated woman is that she knows and she is in control of her own life.

A Sophisticate has No Fear: In the end, a Sophisticate is fearless not just because she is aware she has fears yet, she knows she has the power and the choice not to be afraid. ;D