A Sophisticate Gives Thanks

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"When you arise in the morning, give thanks for the morning light, for your life and strength. Give thanks for your food, and the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies with yourself" Tecumseh Shawnee Chief

Every year we all celebrate Thanksgiving. The holiday celebrates the coming together of the Native Americans and the first European settlements in America in 1621. The Native Americans taught the early European settlers to hunt, fish, and survive. The Thanksgiving holiday started with the settlers saying 'Thank You' through a celebration of their harvest. They shared their food for everyone to share, eat, and enjoy.  The tradition continued and although families continued the tradition with religious connotations, there were Thanksgiving celebrations related to the defeat of the British in the Revolutionary War. In 1863 during the Civil War, a time of death, animosity, and division in of our country  Abraham Lincoln declared Thanksgiving a national holiday.

Today, people of all nationalities celebrate Thanksgiving. The power and influence of 'May I', 'Thank you', and 'Please', are enormous but especially 'Thank You'. Thanksgiving celebrates the kindness and the appreciation for those we love by spending time with those people. Thanksgiving dinner is merely a time to have the time with your loved ones and to celebrate the appreciation of that love and togetherness. 

Unfortunately, people forget to say 'Thank You' or show their appreciation and it has become so rare that when said it makes people feel good about themselves. Saying 'Thank You' is more than just showing appreciation, it is a recognition of the fact that good deeds are optional and kindness is very rarely found. Maybe, people who don't say 'Thank You' have been treated so badly they feel the only way to survive is to demand or that saying 'Thank You' is a sign of weakness.

The meaning behind those two simple words 'Thank You' goes beyond say being polite. The words 'Thank you' means to have manners (A Sophisticate has Manners), to have appreciation, and to recognize that kindness is rare, it is not a sign of weakness but rather a small form of recognition. What distinguishes a Sophisticate in the 21st Century is her understanding that people do not have to be nice or kind. Kindness is a gift. 

"None of us find as much kindness in this world as we should" Arthur Golden from 'Memoirs of a Geisha'

Life is hard.Life is harder without help or kindness. Every day that we live is a struggle and any day that it is not is a gift. Unfortunately, everyone at one point realizes how rare kindness and love REALLY are. Most people who live in Third World countries know the struggle first hand, previous generations, and many cultures know the harshness of life to the point where death is a relief. The harshness of life has not changed or gotten better but rather changed with each generation. The fear and pain of life takes different shapes and forms. No one or no one generation will ever be exempt from the cruelty that life has to offer.

"We must not expect happiness. It is not something we deserve. When life goes well, it is a sudden gift; it cannot last forever" from the movie 'Memoirs of a Geisha

A Sophisticate knows the harshness of life. A Sophisticate knows that kindness and moments of happiness are few and far between. A Sophisticate realizes that other people's lives are just as hard and busy as hers. When acts of kindness or something is done well for her, one of the best ways to start is to say 'Thank You'. She knows how much it means to another person. Actions speak louder then words but a Sophisticate knows that the best start is those two magical words 'Thank You'. 

"Give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way"  Native American saying

A Sophisticate gives thanks for all that she has, the blessings that have been bestowed upon her in her life , and is thankful for everything and everyone in her life because she knows that it could all end and be gone in a moment. A Sophisticate knows that it is not enough to just be thankful and she understands that it is better to give rather than receive. 

A Sophisticate knows that kindness is a gift that is given rather than received. In the end, a Sophisticate isn't just thankful on Thanksgiving, she gives thanks every day. ;D