A Sophisticate is a Warrior

“Generally speaking the way of the warrior is resolute acceptance of death” Miyamoto Musashi

My uncle had committed suicide when I was one years old. Although, I didn't remember anything about him or what happened  for one reason or another, his story growing up made me believe that suicide was possible or an option. When I was twelve years old, I had my first serious thoughts about committing suicide. 

At that time, I was so depressed because of how people were treating me and had so little confidence in myself death seemed like a wonderful dream. Although, I wasn't 100% sure about how wonderful it would be after I died, I longed to be free from not being strong enough to fight the difficult life battle I was facing. Although untrue, I convinced myself that with the problems I had death seemed like the only logical option available. 

With the lack of hope that my life would never change or improve, I knew there was no reason for me to stay alive. Already at my lowest, it was when I had a bad fight with both my parents that I finally felt as if lost it all. In my heart I felt as if I truly had nothing to live for and yet, to this day I still wonder about the  tiniest amount of hope left in me, just enough to tell my mother about what I wanted to do so I could get help.

A Sophisticate knows that at her lowest she can adapt to her situation and make decisions on what are the best ways to survive (A Sophisticate Survives).  When a Sophisticate gets to the point of wanting to take her own life, there are no decisions, no feelings of wanting to survive, she has only glimmer of hope that her options won't cause a lot of pain for too long.

“Appear weak when you are strong, and strong when you are weak.” Sun Tzu, 'The Art of War'  

When a Sophisticate gets to the point of wanting to die she is no longer afraid of death. Also, a Sophisticate can never be told what to do by anyone again.

To take direction from another person is an act of respect rather than a rule or requirement. Once a Sophisticate decides to take God's most precious gift of being alive, no one becomes the master of her own life or her decisions but herself.  A Sophisticate is a warrior because when she gets to the lowest point in her life, like the title of the entrepreneur and author Ryan Blair book, she has ‘Nothing to Lose and Everything to Gain’. (A Sophisticate Gone Bad)

A Sophisticate is more self-assured and confident then to want to take God's greatest gift, her own life. She seeks spiritual guidance and help from others if she is feeling sad or angry. 

In the 21st Century a Sophisticate has had more control over her own destiny than any other century. Therefore, she knows what it is like to hit rock bottom. She is fearless (A Sophisticate has no Fear) and will work hard to make sure she wins because it is a competition with others (A Sophisticate Doesn't Compete) but but because it is a competition with herself. Like a warrior, a Sophisticate is not afraid to go the lengths she needs to go to get what she wants. Ethically too,  her character is strong so her decisions are forthright and in line to her value system. She thinks of others and takes calculated, safe risks that are going to get her to where she wants to be (A Sophisticate Takes Risks).

“The basic difference between an ordinary man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge, while an ordinary man takes everything as a blessing or as a curse.” Don Juan Matus 

Her determination to succeed per her own life path and definition is unique compared to anyone else. Her ambition, her desire, her work ethic, her intelligence allows her to get what she wants out of life. A Sophisticate doesn't stoop so low as to punish others for what she doesn't have or wants. She does not have to demand or fight for respect, it is because of who she is that she receives it. A Sophisticate is not a coward and part of what makes a Sophisticate have no fear is that she feels superior because of who she know she is not because she does harm to others to feel better about herself.

"Study strategy over the years and achieve the spirit of the warrior. Today is victory over yourself of yesterday; tomorrow is your victory over lesser men" Miyamoto Musashi

In the end, a Sophisticate does not conquer others with harsh words, her fist, or selfish and manipulative motives. Rather, a Sophisticate is a warrior because she is strong enough to fight the hard battles that life throws at her day after day and conquer her inner demons to become victorious over her failures. ;D