The Magic Word
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” Viktor Frankl 

When I first heard about 'The Magic Word' I thought of 'please' or 'thank you'. With lesson nine,  I learned that the magic word was attitude. This was by far the hardest lesson for me. Belief was hard but this lesson was a lot more challenging. 

One of my biggest flaws was that I internalized the negativity that came into my life.

Attitude is the composite of our thoughts, feelings, and actions. The little mishaps that happened would happen that were beyond my control would ruin my day. The mishaps that were beyond my control would quickly turn my thoughts to sadness, anger, and most of the time frustration. (Attitude) The negativity I would feel would cause my actions and thus, my day to become worse.

As if the universe was testing me I was getting rapid e-mails with negative complaints and criticism. Could I ignore and shake it off in the midst of all that I knew  I needed and wanted to get accomplished? I failed that test and shut off the e-mails. I simply wasn't strong enough to reject the negativity coming towards me. 

After that experience I understood why the lesson on belief came before the lesson in attitude. Without a strong belief in myself there was no way my attitude could change. (A Sophisticate has Attitude)

'Lesson Nine: The Magic Word' is about reinforcing that the body is an instrument of the mind. It does exactly what the mind tells it to do. Energy comes into our conscious mind. We have the ability to accept ideas that come in from the outside world, and say 'That's good". We can turn the image over to our subconscious mind, and our subconscious mind accepts it as real. 

"Learn to smile at every situation. See it as an opportunity to prove your strength and ability" Joe Brown

According to Bob Proctor and 'Thinking into Results' when someone shares information that's negative, reject it. Don't entertain it. Don't internalize it. Simply say 'That's interesting' and move on. In Lesson Two: The Knowing-Doing Gap the objective was to focus on what I was doing and reject my own bad thoughts and actions to improve.  By not entertaining negative ideas from others I can focus on being optimistic and continue working to achieve my goals. 

"I don't think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains." Anne Frank 'The Diary of a Young Girl'

While writing the exercises in my workbook for 'Lesson Nine: The Magic Word'  I noticed as my attitude improved, the weight or pressure I seemed to always feel was lifted from my shoulders. There was a lightness that I felt that was indescribable. 

"Attitude is a decision" Unknown

Being a child in the 1980's was fun. There were no worries or fear. The economy was great and for me those were happy times before the pain started.  The transition happened one weekend when by chance I heard the 'Growing Pains' sitcom theme. Why did the sitcom theme improve my attitude? It helped me remember a time when I was happy. It also reminded me of what I wanted in the future. A family.  Beyond all my other goals is my desire to have a family. A family like in my favorite TV Shows 'Family Ties' and 'Growing Pains'. Unrealistic? Maybe. Still, it's what I want and that song reminded me of past and future happiness.

"Change your thoughts and you change your world" Norman Vincent Peale

In the end, the magic word is attitude. My attitude is now easily improved as I  remind myself of the happiness of my past and my belief in the future, more importantly the belief within myself to achieve my goals.