A Sophisticate is Single

"The best part of being alone is that you don't have to answer to anybody. You do what you want" Justin Timberlake

The name I considered for Sophisticate in the Suburbs was Single in the Suburbs. My first love was when I was eight years old. Engaged twice in my life I have been dating for 26 years. After 26 years I could write a book about being single. 

Being single is nothing to be ashamed of and a Sophisticate should be single. Single is 'singular' and not alone. Being single means she is one woman to be dependent on no one emotionally or financially. 

My father raised me like a son. He believed that depending on a man was dangerous. There is divorce and always the possibility of death. To develop the self-assurance to have a successful equal partnership a woman should have her own money, career, and be able to take care of herself. It creates a level of confidence that makes her attractive and successful in her personal as well as her professional life.

A marriage is an equal partnership. Without a woman being equal with a man, there can be no partnership. Being single is her development into being a whole person. 

In the 21st Century, a Sophisticate can have a career, have a baby, and own her house by herself. This is the first century that a Sophisticate can do everything without having a man in her life.

"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlovely, lonely can be" Ellen Burstyn 

The question is not why a Sophisticate single but why is a Sophisticate married?When a Sophisticate is single she does not search for a man but the search to find herself. Only in finding and discovering herself can there ever be someone else to find and discover her true worth. 

Being single a Sophisticate is independent but there is something missing. It's probably keeps her looking and hoping (A Sophisticate finds her Soulmate).  A Sophisticate can't have too much love in her life and what is missing is having another source of love. A person who is completely, unconditionally on her side, as a back up, and who is her #1 fan besides herself.

A Sophisticate is strong and beautiful on their own. With all of her independence society may judge her because she does not have a spouse or a date but she does not judge herself (A Sophisticate is Miss Independent)

A Sophisticate is single because she is self-assured and powerful. She has enough love for herself that she is secure without love from another person. In her eyes she is equal to any man, looking for a partnership and love when she feels like or wants it. In the end, a Sophisticate is single because she has enough opportunities in her life to be the best by herself, second to none, and un-lonely alone. ;D