A Sophisticate is a Southern Belle

"There is no charm equal to the tenderness of heart." Jane Austen

While walking in my neighborhood when I first arrived in Nashville from New York, a stranger in a car waved to me. Living near the city, this took me by surprise and almost scared me. Where I lived you avoided strangers or any contact of strangers. Survival meant keeping to yourself. Kindness and being friendly resulted in unwanted attention. More importantly, where I came from it took months sometimes years to befriend someone or trust someone enough to be friendly. 

In the South, you just have to live there to deserve kindness and warmth. There is a phrase called southern hospitality because there truly is is an extra level of sincere and higher level of hospitality that exists when you cross the mason dixon line. 

"Charm is the way of getting the answer 'Yes' without asking a clear question" Albert Camus

In the South, the personality of a Sophisticate is as warm as the weather. Even when being critical she makes sure to add "sweetness" to the "sour" that comes with the harsh reality of life. 

That doesn't mean a Sophisticate in the South is so extremely friendly and kind that she is the mat that welcomes you. The key to knowing a Sophisticate who lives in the South is her smile. Her smile can be your best friend or the precursor before she cuts you down to size.

"There's a difference between beauty and charm. A beautiful woman is one I notice. A charming woman is one who notices me" John Erskine

In some parts of the country the weather is crisp and cold. The weather lends itself for a Sophisticate to have  to wear heavy dark clothing to protect and feel protected. In the South, a Sophisticate doesn't have to hide. The weather is warmer for a longer period of time allowing her to be free (A Sophisticate is Free) to wear what she wants without the burden of "extra" clothing. The weather allows for the ability to not have to worry or "fret" over the little things. 

"There is no personal charm so great as the charm of a cheerful temperament" Henry Van Dyke 

Due to the Great Potato Famine in Ireland between 1845 and 1849 (The Great Potato Famine) there was an influx of Irish immigrants who settled in the mainly or mostly in the Southern states. They understood the value of agriculture.  They cherished the freedom and richness the land provided  to grow  and harvest their own crops. The culture of the South is based on the laughter, fun, and cheerful temperament the Irish culture was based upon.

In the North a Sophisticate appreciates her personal space because there is no physical space. In the South, due to the agriculture heritages she appreciates the ample land and space the land provides. A Sophisticate in the South hates being alone and always seeking out good company.

"Charm is the ability to make someone else think that both of you are pretty wonderful" Kathleen Winsor

A Sophisticate in the east coast has attitude, a slight air of savoir-faire. A Sophisticate who is southern has charm. She has a huge heart that is shown not on her sleeve but by the pink bow in her hair. Like the hospitality, a Sophisticate who is southern has an extra level of charm. The food and manners are plentiful and served with extra care.

A Sophisticate who lives in the south has a deep reverence and understanding of how religion heals the heart. She has a deep sense of community. Her deep sense of religion and community is enhanced by going to church on Sunday.  A Sophisticate has her errands but she goes to church not just to pray but to take the time to share the love between friends and family.

"Brevity is a great charm of eloquence." Marcus  Tulles  Cicero

In the North a Sophisticate is ambitious. In  the  South a Sophisticate is determined. She has a quiet strength. Part of her charm is knowing what to say and what not to say. Her charm is knowing when to be silent and when to talk. She speaks with a calm and pointed purpose of getting what she wants either in life or in relationships.

A Sophisticate who lives in the South has innocence and warmth in her heart. She has elegance and piety. A Sophisticate in the South believes in God and in herself. She does so with modesty and kindness. A Sophisticate is a  Southern Belle because her heart rings true like the church bells on Sunday. In the end, a Sophisticate is a Southern Belle because her heart exudes warmth, sincerity, sweetness, kindness, and love even in the face of the ugliness of life every day. ;D