A Sophisticate Goes Rogue

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"Don't think outside the box. Think like there is no box.” Ziad K. Abdelnour

I've been a Star Wars fan since I was little and wasn't ashamed of it. I brought a red ewoks plastic lunchbox to Kindergarten and was teased because everyone thought it was a "boys lunchbox" since it was red not pink. The  boys at school thought I should be carrying a pink lunch box. I knew it was a boys lunchbox but I didn't care. I thought the was cute and liked it. I kept it regardless. Being the only girl with a Star Wars, non-pink, "boys" lunchbox I rebelled. By keeping it after I was teased meant I had decided to go rogue. 

Fast forward years later to me as an adult watching the trailer for "Rogue One". Jyn Erso is a trouble maker, a failure. The best part? Her attitude. She doesn't care. She owns up to her failures and with no apologies takes it a step further by making no apologies (A Sophisticate Never Apologizes) owning up to her "rebel" status.

My connection to the character I saw in the trailer was immediate. There I was, a total failure, a trouble maker (my nickname is "trouble" no matter where I go), a person who people are ashamed of yet, in the face of that shame, confident. 

“Know the rules well, so you can break them effectively.” Dalai Lama XIV

What does it mean to "rebel"? To not follow the rules. 
What does it mean to "go rogue"? When the rules don't exist. 

“Learn the rules like a pro, so you can break them like an artist.” Pablo Picasso

For a Sophisticate rebel is know that there are rules but to purposely not follow them because they go against her personal values. When she goes rogue, she doesn't know or care that someone else made rules, she makes her own rules  without the intent of hurting others.

The rules that applied for a woman in the 20th Century do not apply to a woman in the 21st Century. With the education and opportunities that are available to a woman, any rules that existed in the 20th Century for a woman no longer apply. The 21st Century is a new ballgame with a new set of standards. A Sophisticate understands that she has to go rogue to survive (A Sophisticate is a Survivor). 

“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.” Robert Heinlein 

A Sophisticate understands that when she doesn't play by the rules and when she makes her own rules she is responsible for the consequences of her own actions. She understands that the price may be high. Rebelling or going rogue results in being bullied (A Sophisticate is Bullied), harassed  and failing.  (A Sophisticate is Failure). 

The rewards if she can get through it all are innumerable. The space between a Sophisticate going from a Khaleesi (A Sophisticate is a Khaleesi) to a Queen (A Sophisticate is a Queen) is when she decides to take a risk and goes rogue. Going rogue, failing and going to her lowest actually rises her to a higher level of leadership and respect.  Why? How? Education (A Sophisticate is a Teacher). She learns how resilient she is and can be in the face of adversity. Going rogue also teaches her humility. Humility being the key to leadership. A leader must follow before they can lead (or rule). 

In the end, a Sophisticate goes rogue because she has the resiliency as well as inner strength to continually re-create herself. That same strength gives her the ability to create the future for others by living by her own rules no matter what the cost. ;D