A Sophisticate is Happy

"There is no such thing as battling depression. Depression is easy, happiness is the battle" Sophisticate in the Suburbs

There has been no century that is harder or more brutal to live in then the 21st Century. Is that necessarily true or is it life that is brutal? How can a Sophisticate stay happy in the face of all of life's trials? How can a person not be negative, not hate, and not be depressed in all the pain that surrounds and exists within us?

The answer is, that being happy is impossible. It is easy and perfectly okay to be depressed. It is easy to complain and hate but that is unacceptable or a counterproductive way to hope to achieve happiness.  In a world where nothing is  impossible, the truth is that happiness is impossible. What is a Sophisticate to do if happiness is impossible? Fight.

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!” Rocky Balboa

Every second of every day, a Sophisticate fights to be happy. In the face of everything that can make her miserable, sad, angry, and negative she has to consciously focus on what is good and what makes her smile. 

She utilizes the power of focus. She must focus on her goals and what makes her smile. Whether it be a screensaver on her iPhone, a favorite song that she falls asleep or wakes up to, or a hobby, she focuses and fights for her smile.

When she finds it hard, she seeks assistance either from  a therapist to understand and deal with her past or hires a life coach to help her focus on her goals and future.

Once happiness is achieved, a Sophisticate may want to feel joy. Sadly, joy is a little far reaching and harder to achieve. Joy is something deeper, rarer, and a lot more special because it appears out of nowhere. Inside someplace deep within her a Sophisticate feels something that cannot be explained or defined. Maybe that is why no-one, not even the greatest of poets can define or explain love in its complete form.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”  Gandhi 

Happiness is:

- Individual 
- External 
- A choice
- A feeling 
- Actions
- Something that touches or is felt in the heart
- Thoughtful
- Little things that makes a person smile
- Something that is worked for to achieve  
- The result can be explained "I'm happy because.... "

Joy is:

- When other people are involved
- Internal 
- Involuntary 
- Emotion
- Something that touches or is felt in the Soul
- Instinctual
- A gift from God
- A positive emotion that appears out of nowhere 
- Inexplainable and undefinable 

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama XIV

Happiness is hard and an impossible feat. That is why a Sophisticate is resilient, ambitious, works hard, and seeks help from others.  A Sophisticate seeks adventures and goes outside her comfort zone to make sure she achieves happiness. 

"Nothing is impossible, the word itself says, "I'm possible" Audrey Hepburn

In life where happiness is impossible, a Sophisticate knows it is possible. In the end, a Sophisticate knows working for a few moments of happiness is worth more then allowing a lifetime of misery. ;D