A Sophisticate is Princess Charming

"Love is life changing. Life is change and so will love except the love you have for yourself." Sophisticate in the Suburbs

Once upon a time a single woman lived alone until  she was 30 years old. With a career and her own place she  met the love of her life, got married, and had a son. At age 50 her husband had a heart attack and died. The woman was so sad she never married again. In the end, she went back to living alone with her son and lived happily ever after.  

This is the story of one of my parents neighbors. She said she was grateful for the 20 wonderful years with her husband and that she fell in love. More importantly, she said, she was grateful she knew how to live alone because she had to do it all over again. 

“Westley: Hear this now: I will always come for you.
Buttercup: But how can you be sure?
Westley: This is true love-you think this happens every day?" from 'The Princess Bride' (1987)

True love is rare. It is the rarest jewel on earth and the most priceless. It is the most valuable because it cannot be mined like gold and can't transform like a diamond. A Sophisticate could be the richest in the world but as 'The Beatles' once sang, money can't buy her love.

The only love that a Sophisticate can create, find, and transform within herself is the love she has for herself.

Dating, married, divorced, or single a Sophisticate is alone three times in her life:  1- When she is born 2- When she lives 3- When she dies. 

When I was in my early twenties I walked away from a serious relationship. From that moment on I gave up on the fairytale of  ever having that rarest of true love.

Seemingly overnight I mentally and emotionally prepared to depend on one person, myself. Still, there was something inside that held on to hope that I might be able to find someone to depend on, a person who could be my partner, my other whole (not half). 

After years of heartache and disappoint because of the high expectations I had of myself that I projected on everyone, I gave up. It was when I realized the only person who going to fight for me, care about me, and love me the way I wanted was me that I  found happiness and the freedom I had been seeking in life. 

"Status is the position of affairs at a particular time. Relationship status is just that, status. True love is forever." Sophisticate in the Suburbs

Dating, married, widowed, divorced, or single, the journey a Sophisticate is hers alone. Even finding a soulmate (A Sophisticate finds her Soulmate) and true love, a Sophisticate,  has her own demons to fight and has her own individual purpose in life. 

"Charlotte: I'm sorry but it's true. I've been dating since I was fifteen. I'm exhausted. Where is he?
Miranda: Who? The white knight?
Samantha: That only happens in fairy tales.
Charlotte: My hair hurts." from 'Sex in the City' Season 3: Episode 1 

As Shakespeare once said "Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player that struts and frets his hour upon the stage."  (Macbeth, Act V, Scene 5) A stage not a fairytale, and life is not a fairytale. Every woman like every man, has their hour on the stage of life before they die.

"Note to self: I'm going to make you so proud." Anonymous 

In the end, the person who reflects back in the mirror of a Sophisticate each morning and evening, is her. A Sophisticate and her spirit (A Sophisticate is Spiritual) will be there with her until the day she dies. No one else regardless of who is physically beside her. 

A Sophisticate is Princess Charming knows for certain because she has the confidence and resiliency to know she will always be there for herself.   Anyone else being there for her, sorry to say, is always a hope not a certainty or guarantee. ;D