How to Date a Blogger

"Don't think or judge, just listen" Sarah Dessen

How does one date a blogger, vlogger, or influencer on social media? You don't.

I'm half serious, half kidding. When a man dates a blogger, vlogger, or influencer on social media, they can expect that there are three people in the relationship: her, him, and her laptop or iPhone.  When dating a blogger understand that you are dating a brand, an image, and an opinionated workaholic. 

A blogger, vlogger or influencer publishes their lives for the public to potentially relate to and learn from.  When it comes to sharing they are not just an open book, they are open for business 24/7. 

"Love fiercely (and don't forget to stop along the way to take photos)" Chiara Ferragni

If you do decide to date one, here are a few insights:

1- Their iPhone is their favorite accessory - Forget bracelets or a watch, their iPhone and fashionable case is carried everywhere they go. Want to give a present? A quick stocking stuffer? Forget flowers, the only flower they want is a a rose gold iPhone and special iPhone case is the way to go! They post, they tag wherever they go! Every place is an opportunity to promote!

2- They live on their laptop - They will cheat on you everyday of your relationship with their laptop. It is their security blanket and main  source of communication.

3- Expect opinions - Bloggers are writers. Be that as they may, they have opinions and have no fear of expressing them. If you want to know them, read their blog or ask them. Either way, you will know what they value and what they stand for without question.

4- Don't Assume - Bloggers never reveal their sources and talk about generalities because what they write is public and therefore subject to interpretation. Never assume that they are writing about you. If they have a problem with you, they will tell you to your face. (See #3 "Expect Opinions").

A good blogger like a good writer NEVER reveals their sources for put names in their blog before they publish. If they do write a blog with a name it is with express permission and it is approved before they press the "Publish" button.

5- Don't Read and Tell- A blogger will NEVER change their opinion even if you don't agree. A blog for most is an online journal. To tell a blogger that they shouldn't write their opinion because you don't agree is a "pink flag" (Sophisticate Dating Stage #5: Pink Flags). It is like telling someone that  their personal feelings is wrong aka who they are as a person is wrong.

6- To Photograph or not to Photograph - Do you want to be included with her brand on social media or not? That is a discussion for each couple. Most bloggers would be flattered by a man who wants to be part of her brand because they want to be part of their life. 

If a man doesn't want to be seen with her on social media? That is another "pink flag" (Sophisticated Dating Stage #: Pink Flags) that says he doesn't want to be part of her life. In general, blogging is a personal activity that doesn't require a man and for professional reasons, a Sophisticate keeps personal and professional life separate.

Don't be offended if 95% of her pictures on Social Media involve her. Blogging is her activity, her passion, her hobby, and possibly her profession. It is sometimes the one thing she doesn't share with anyone else. Be grateful for her independent ways.

No matter if it is her Company or her hobby, her brand or blog is what is hers and hers alone. A blogger is looking for someone to support and love. What she does, what she writes, or who she is. Her blog is a part of who she is as a person.

A blog or a brand is like a relationship itself. After a relationship begins, discussions can be had about involvement (Sophisticated Dating Stage #11: Engagement or Involvement). In the end, when it comes to dating a blogger it simply comes down to the fact if you don't like or love her brand or what her blog stands for, you don't love her.  ;D